Monday, 27 February 2012

 Title :    “Good parents make good children, bad parents make bad children." What is your  opinion    about the statement above?

When kids act out, it always the parents who get the blame. Why is it like that? Should the parents are the one who must be blamed if their children have bad behaviour and play truently? In our point of view, there are a lot of other factors that can influence children behaviour. We should not blame the parents only as they always try their best in educating their children since the children were born.

Primary factor that contribute to children behaviour is mass media. As we all know, mass media has become important medium for transferring and receiving information. For instance, television, internet, radio and newspaper. Children will surely be affected by this medium if these important mediums not be taken care. Most of children today tend to spend their time in front of the computer for playing games and surfing internet. How about when the children were surfing internet, suddenly pornography picture pop out. We should know that children are not expert in differentiating between bad and good. Moreover, it is outrageous when we found out that FINAS ( National Film Development Corporation Malaysia) does not filter their film anymore. Let us think about it together. This is bad! Children will be badly affected by mass media. There are many films that can encourage children to involve in bad things such as rempit.For example, Evolusi KL Drift film maybe was created to give good impact to Malaysia citizen. Unfortunately, our beloved children tend to follow the action rather than taking moral of the story. In conclusion, mass media should be filtered in order to make children influenced by good thing.

 Besides, peer influenced also contribute to the children’s attitude. It is because children spend almost of their time with their friends. As we all realize, they spent almost 6 to 7 hours in the school per day and they go to school 5 days a week. Sometimes they have discussion or hang out together with their friends. From this aspect, did you realize that children spend a lot of their time with their friends instead with their parents at home? It can’t be denied that friend gives a very great impact to children’s behaviour. Behaviour of the children depends on their friends. A good friend can guide to the truth path while if children befriend with a bad person, indirectly children are influenced by their friend’s action.  For example, let us think, if one group of teenagers do bad thing such as smoking, children will easily get  influenced by their friends. As we all realize, children or teenagers have high inquiries. Because of these  high inquiries, they will try to smoke without thinking any side effects. So, should we blame the parents if their children have bad behaviour while friends are one of the main factors which contribute in behaviour of children?
Other than that, parents should not be blamed for the children behaviour because environment could be one of external factors that influence them. For instance, as we all know there are a lot of cybercafé  in Malaysia. These emergence, will affect children behaviour since most of children love to play games. They dare to go to cybercafé even during school sessions just to play games. This will lead to absenteeism and truancy among school children. Besides, we often heard a lot of social issues and crime issues whether in newspaper, radio or televisions. This  shows there are a lot of immoral people outside children’s home. Is it this environment that all of us want to educate our children? Should the parents be blamed for children’s behaviour if the environment  become worse and worst? Life of children is the most challenges. They easily   get influenced by their environment because they don’t have a lot of knowledge. So, as  responsible  citizens, we should guide the children to the right path. We have to show the good examples  since they will become the leader of our beloved country one day. Remember, if you want to see our country in our future, look at our children today. Stop to put on blame on parents if the children is bad, but let all of us take good care of the environment  for the sake of our future. Parents have tried their best to educate their children and now, it is our turn to play role to keep the environment in harmony.

 In a nutshell, we absolutely disagree that good parents make good children, bad parents make bad children as there are many factors that influence them. Instead of the parents, mass media and peer influence also play important role in contributing the children's attitude. Although there are a lot of other factors that influenced  them, parents have to play their role in educating their children. We understand that parents have a lot of responsibilities, but they cannot neglect their children. Come on parents! Try your best! ' Better die trying rather than give up  


  1. salam,greetings to all of you my fellow friends..we have read through your essay,great one!We could see that you disagree with the statement..In a matter of fact,children are the mirror of their parents. Somehow,the way parents treat or educate their youngsters affect them either directly or indirectly.When parents motivate their chidren,they will be inspired..When parents scold and shout at their children,they will throw tantrum...

  2. Assalamualaikum,we have read your essay..and we totally agree with your statement..Usually people will always see for the parent's behaviour then the other factor that affect the children's attitude..We think from your essay we can say that all the points that you had been stated are nice and suitable for this essay!!!nice job...keep it up!!!

  3. as humaira-athirah-muin
    salam dear!!!three of you..
    interesting topics!!!we absolutely agree with your points that parents should not be blamed for their children's mistakes..but still parents can be the best reference..good job..we love it!!
    keep it up buddy!!

  4. salam.. nice essay.. however, please beware of the dog.. i mean,, be careful with your spelling such as
    *play truently- play truant
    for grammatical error
    *this medium(p.2)-these mediums
    *when the children were surfing internet(p.2)-when the children are surfing internet
    *their film(p.2)- their films
    thanks you

    1. thank you for your feedback.InshaAllah we will improve next time

  5. Assalamualaikum wbt.

    It seems like we have the same view on this topic but we wonder if the children themselves should also be blamed for their act? But never mind as you clarify the world 'children' as kids in your essay. If teenagers can also be included, we think that they must be held accountable for their action as they are mature enough.

    Thank you.